I AM UNMARRIED, NOT CONDEMNED

The importance of marriage cannot be stressed enough so this post won't address that. It will however, address those of us who some of us have decided to see as being of little worth because of marriage. So a sister had a child before marriage, or from a previous marriage. And a brother has been married before but now divorced. Or maybe they have never been married and time is running.
Well guess what? it's none of your business.......okay okay, that's being unnecessarily defensive.
Let's try that again.
That a person has a twist that appears unusual does not always point at the manner of life lived or character. All of these issues go deeper than we see from a distance or critique from behind a keyboard somewhere.
Some of the best people have the worst challenges to deal with, do we need to add to that?
If love is what you are after, the person's past should not deter you.
That is not asking you not to tread with caution because like everyone else, these people have their own faults too. Every human does. But to make a previous life a basis for judgement especially when it was not really their fault is harsh
And what if it is their fault? What matters is the present, what the person has done/is doing to be better.
We all have one first time, the lucky ones get it right one time, not everyone is as lucky.
"I love her but she already has a child", no sir you do not love her.
"I really want to marry him but he has a grown child from his past", what has that got to do with you?
Again, do your part getting to know who and what you are getting into. Know to take a wholistic view and use it as a predictive index if you must but please go easy on people and the past they are struggling to make better today.
Allaah sees everything.